A question that was emailed to me that I forgot to address during our last talk on sex…
- Is it okay to long to be married?
First off, there’s plenty of scriptural support that encourages us to find contentment in all circumstances. Whether you’re single, courting, married, whatever the circumstance.
Secondly, let me go out on a limb, and say that in a very broad sense, marriage seems to be the default status God guides people towards. There are plenty, plenty, of exceptions to this in which single people live God-honoring and amazingly thriving lives. But, there does seem to be a bias towards marriage, family, child-raising, etc.
Thirdly, with that in mind, I think there’s nothing at all wrong with having a desire to be married. In fact, whether a person gets married or not at some point, I think we should all be preparing ourselves to be good husbands, wives, fathers, and mothers. If God were to bless us with something as sacred as marriage we ought to be at least somewhat ready for it. I’d encourage people to use this desire for marriage to prepare yourself to be the right person, should God bring you the right person.
Finally, above all of this, I don’t think the ultimate goal should ever be singlehood, or marriage. The goal is Christ-likeness. With Christ as our guide, I think it’ll make a number of our other decisions a bit healthier.
* I know last Sunday was really rushed. I’m more than happy to field any additional questions privately via email or for the community on this blog.
